Losing someone we love

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At some point during our lives it is inevitable that we will lose people we love.  For some of us that will be much earlier and far too soon, but what ever age we are nothing can ever prepare us.  I consider myself quite lucky in that I didn’t suffer any real loss until the death of my father 11 years ago. It did however come as a huge shock to me especially as he was still relatively young, 65 years and I was heartbroken. I do however, know people who lost parents at very young ages, or worse still parents who have lost their children.

Everyone tells us that there are five stages of grief which we all experience when we lose someone we love very much and these stages can happen in any order and there are no rules as to when we will experience these feelings, which are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. It is a gradual healing process and one not to be rushed.

We all deal with our emotions very differently so when we are going through a period of grief it is hardly surprising we can feel isolated and alone, especially when the world seems to be carrying on just as it did before.

As time goes by the grieving should become easier and we can begin to recall the good times and think about the person with fond and happy thoughts. For some, this doesn’t always happen and the problem starts if we get stuck in the grieving process and don’t deal and address the emotions we are experiencing. It has been known for some people to hold onto their grief for many years and this can have a detrimental affect on long-term health.

If you suspect you might be holding on to grief in any way then please contact me. Using homeopathy, I work with you to heal form within using a gentle, non-toxic, chemical free and safe form of medicine.

 

Baby Blues or Post Natal Depression (PND)?

baby-blues-or-post-natal-depressionSo here is this little bundle of joy that you’ve waited 9 months for so why then don’t you feel quite as happy as you feel you should.

It is perfectly normal to feel weepy and even sad for a few hours or days after giving birth and this is known as the baby blues. After all, it is a big lifestyle change especially if it is your first baby. The realization dawns on you that life will never be the same again, yes everyone said that when they found out you were expecting, but it still doesn’t prepare you that you now have a little person relying on you for their every need. It takes time to adjust to the new routine with sleepless nights and a constant round of changing nappies, feeding and waking.

New mums can feel anxious, tired and even lonely and isolated if they don’t have a good support group to help. It is hardly surprising therefore that 1 in 10 new mothers will suffer from PND and it affects everyone differently with varying symptoms coming on gradually and lasting from 1-3 months and in some cases longer if help isn’t received.  The following are symptoms that can be experienced:-

  • a persistent feeling of sadness and low mood
  • loss of interest in the world around you and no longer enjoying things that used to give you pleasure
  • lack of energy and feeling tired all the time
  • feeling that you’re unable to look after your baby
  • problems concentrating and making decisions
  • loss of appetite or an increased appetite (comfort eating)
  • feeling agitated, irritable or very apathetic (you “can’t be bothered”)
  • feelings of guilt, hopelessness and self-blame
  • difficulty bonding with your baby with a feeling of indifference and no sense of enjoyment in his or her company
  • frightening thoughts – for example, about hurting your baby; these can be scary, but they’re very rarely acted upon
  • thinking about suicide and self harm.

If you feel you might be suffering from PND it is important that you get help either by discussing your feelings with your partner, midwife, health visitor, homeopath or GP.  Thankfully, PND is now no longer a taboo subject and it is a recognised illness, especially since famous people have also shared their stories it . There are also many support groups available such as National Child Trust or PANDAS Foundation to name just a few.  Please don’t suffer in silence and reach out to someone.

If you feel you may be suffering from PND or know someone who is and would like a free 15 minute consultation please contact me.

Tears of a Clown – Depression and hiding behind a smile

tears-of-a-clown“Now if there’s a smile on my face
It’s only there trying to fool the public”

The lyrics of the song Tears of a Clown seem to sum up how some people dealing with anxiety and depression learn to conceal their feelings from loved ones, friends and work colleagues.

On the outside it might appear that they are coping and doing every day things normally but underneath the brave face they are suffering. Their symptoms can range from low self-esteem, panic attacks, high anxiety and insomnia to name just a few. Behind that smile they can often be feeling ashamed and worthless.

Many comedians hide behind a persona and mask, for example, Ruby Wax, Stephen Fry and David Walliams who all have a history of depression.

Hiding our true feelings everyday takes its toll and eventually compounds the pressure and the longer it continues the harder it can be to recover.

If you recognise any of the above, homeopathy may be able to help you. Using homeopathy I work with you to heal from within using a gentle, non-toxic, chemical free and safe form of medicine.   Please feel free to contact me.  I offer a free 15 minute consultation to anyone who might be interested in finding out whether homeopathy can help them.

I had a black dog

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This week is World Mental Health Week, and I am going to be writing a daily blog about the different types of depression and how they can affect any one of us at any time in our life.

A few years ago, Matthew Johnston, a writer and illustrator produced, for the World Health Organisation, a video called I had a Black Dog to show the signs and effects of depression. It was designed to encourage people with depression to seek out help and support.

It was in fact Winston Churchill who popularized the phrase Black Dog to describe his bouts of depression.   As Matthew rightly says The Black Dog is an equal opportunity mongrel and there are many varying breeds. It can cast it’s shadow over any one of us at any time. We should always be aware that everyone we meet is fighting a battle of some sort.

Homeopathy is a gentle, non-toxic, chemical free and safe form of medicine. Please feel free to contact me to see if I may be able to help you if you are experiencing any of the above feelings.

Anxiety – don’t let it get the better of you.

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I am seeing more people in my practice who are living with stress and anxiety. Anyone who has anxiety will know only too well how debilitating this can be and how it can eat into all areas of their life.

There are different types of anxiety and one is quite normal, for example to feel nervous before taking an exam or driving test, but then there is another kind which is more than a feeling of nervousness or unease about doing something.   It can over time, manifest itself and can have a crippling affect on lives, leading to not wanting to do things, and in severe cases not even wanting to leave the house and do the things that were once enjoyed. The anxiety grows even more and can lead to further symptoms such as high blood pressure and palpitations.

People experiencing anxiety begin to think there is something wrong with them, which of course isn’t the case at all.  Unfortunately these thoughts then leave people feeling even more anxious and self-conscious and the anxiety becomes a vicious circle.

If you recognise any of the above symptoms and would like to overcome your anxiety please contact me and we can discuss your individual symptoms to see how I may be able to help you.  I also offer consultations via Skype if you do not live nearby or live overseas.